Flirting can certainly be fun and it
can also mean death in a committed relationship.
While we completely advocate flirting
with each other to keep spice in your relationship, we
definitely don't agree that flirting with other people and
creating jealousy has the same effect on your relationship.
Flirting can mean something different
to every person, depending on past experiences.
It often happens that two people look
at the same situation and one person thinks it's flirting
behavior and the other person thinks he or she is just
"being friendly."
When this
happens, both people think they are right and the
disagreement becomes the most prominent thing in their
relationship.
Mistrust and jealousy seep into the
relationship and can certainly cause its demise if you don't
make some changes.
What do you
do if you can't agree on whether flirting is going on or
not?
What do you do if your
partner is flirting and won't change?
If your partner's behavior is blatantly
in opposition to commitments that you think you've both made
in your relationship, you have to set boundaries and mean
them.
If your partner's
behavior isn't that blatant but still bothers you--and you
can't come to an agreement, try shifting gears.
Feel inside you what you'd like more of
from him or her and what you'd like more of in your
relationship.
That doesn't
mean that you simply say that the flirting has to stop. It
means for you to discover if you want more connection, more
attention, more physical love.
In other words, go for what you
want.
Here's some information
about flirting that can help you...
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